I am a single parent, almost 40, living with Lupus. I wouldn't call that three strikes, but with no potential candidate for love in sight, one has to wonder. Is there hope for love in this lifetime? Am I willing to allow someone into my world? Is a loving husband too much to ask for?
Sometimes, I do not think it would be fair for me to find love. That may sound crazy but, imposing lupus on some innocent bystanders life is the last thing I would want to do. Furthermore, It would take a strong individual to deal with the complex and unpredictable nature of the disease. They would need to be patient and understanding of lupus and it's effects. In my mind, a companion that is ginuenly interested in researching and helping with preventative maintenance is a gem! I do not like to call people living with lupus needy, but when dealing with a flare, we have the potential to be just that, and a help mate would make life a lot easier.
Unfortunately, lupus is known to have a mind of its own. For instance, lupus does not care if it is your spouses birthday or your anniversary, a flare could come out of nowhere and change your plans, no matter how far in advance they were made. Patience and understanding are key characteristics in these instances. Another thing, many of the medications used to treat lupus have the tendency to cause weight gain, as well as, varying mood swings. Chronic pain also leads to depression in some cases. Having a mate that is capable of picking up on what is occurring and has patience to work through those hard times, will definitely help the relationship grow and run smoothly. Now, I'm not saying this individual is not out there, but our paths have yet to cross.
As for me, it is going to take a very special individual to break down my Lupus barrier, but, I know it is possible. There is still hope for this Lupie. For those of you that have a good man, recognize him and make sure he knows he is appreciated.
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